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adoptees are not pawns in your anti-choice bullshit.
Adoption is classist, racist, misogynistic, anti child, and anti community
Woahwoahwoah. How is supporting adoption classist or racist? I especially don’t see how it could be misogynostic or anti community.
since when has placing children in loving homes where they are wanted racist and mysogynistic?? climb down bro.
Let me first state I am pro-life. It is NEVER wrong to choose life. I would much rather a child be brought into the world and help the mother than know that I allowed the child to be murdered.
Having said that though, adoption is NOT A PANACAEA to abortion. It does not ‘fix’ the problem. It is a completely separate issue and one that has as many far reaching and profound repercussions as killing a baby does. But it is an issue that conservatives and Christians are ALL TOO WILLING to go all hippy-dippy space cadet rainbows and unicorns ‘love will save the day’ about, to the exclusion of any protest or dissatisfaction that those who are ACTUALLY involved in the adoption process would have about the issue. I.E. “hate abortion? Then adopt! Hate adoption? Then you must be a stinking leftwing babykiller$#@$#%^!!”
Really?! Adoptees are the only ones in society whose only allowable expression of emotion is ‘gratitude’. Any subsequent HUMAN emotion at losing the one connection they have to their family and past and self/identity is their mother (for whatever reason) is considered “ungrateful” and “why cant you just shut up and accept your fate you must be a babykiller!”
THATS the response I see ad nauseum among my fellow conservatives…and yet they turn around and talk about how WONDERFUL it is to know history and families and ancestry etc. What does that make conservatives? HYPOCRITS.
And then theres the issue of an adoptee being unable to do what most NONadoptees are able to do without EVER being questioned or harrassed or refused: obtaining information about one’s self ie the Original Birth Certificate. Go on - try it. Go ask for your BC. How much trouble did you have? Is it amended? Are you sure? Does it actually reflect who your parents REALLY are? Or does it take note of the fact that you were ORIGINALLY someone else but through the courts you were ‘remade’ by your adoptive parents and there is NO reflection of your past heritage on that BC at all…and if you try to go track down what that is, you find yourself blocked in all but six states. Why? “To protect the privacy of the mother” - EVEN THOUGH NOTHING IN THE RELINQUISHMENT PAPERS SHE SIGNED EVER STATED HER PRIVACY WOULD BE SHIELDED.
And what about YOUR private information? Don’t YOU get to access it? Who DOES have access to it and why not you?
And let’s get into the racism - oh boy - yes, there’s racism going on because in the last several years, various cultures and countries around the world have made it known to desperate prospective adoptive parents that they are willing to sell their children to them so the PAPs can fell like a hero and wow arent THEY diverse, they have an Ethiopian/Russian/Somalian/Chinese/Guatamalan/Latino baby.
I have a cousin who is a Baptist minister who had three natural children of his own with his preacher’s daughter of a wife. One day she apparently was talking with her friends at church and “oh I have an idea, why dont we ALL together go and adopt/buy a baby from another country at the same time?!” So now they have a little Ethiopian girl. Isnt that sweet? Isnt that noble? Isnt that BRAVE of them? taking in a baby who doesnt look like them?
NEVER MIND that that poor child now has not only lost access to any family she might have had (and trust me, the value of life is such in those places that people have NO QUALMS about selling their children or handing them over to an ‘orphanage’ - especially girls - in order to get money) - cut off from access to any information she’d have of her own people, but will now be forced to grow up with people who are QUITE OBVIOUSLY not like her at all…and yet she will never be allowed to be anything but ‘grateful’ that she was ‘saved’. Lost her family, lost her heritage, lost her identity, in the name of making my cousin and his wife LOOK and FEEL good in the eyes of society.